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  • Tom Goldstein

The Power of Habits: Happiness and Success Through Conscious Choices

Habits play a critical role in our pursuit of happiness and success. Habits can either serve as stepping stones towards what we want or act as barriers.

Habits can foster a sense of control and predictability in our lives, leading to a more stable emotional state. Knowing that we have the power to shape our routines and actions can in itself bring about a sense of fulfilment and satisfaction.

What we might think of as “healthy” habits, such as structured working, regular exercise, healthy eating, meditation, or dedicating time for hobbies, can contribute to a sense of wellbeing and contentment. Regular exercise, for example, not only promotes physical health but also boosts mental wellbeing by releasing endorphins known as 'feel-good hormones'. Similarly, a habit of maintaining a gratitude journal can enhance one's focus on the positive aspects of life, cultivating happiness.

I think it's also important to acknowledge that what we might term “unhealthy” habits, such as unhealthy diets, chronic procrastination, constantly comparing oneself to others, or doom scrolling on social media, can impede our happiness and success. These habits can lead to physical and emotional health issues, reinforcing feelings of dissatisfaction and unhappiness.

In essence, by consciously forming positive habits and breaking negative ones, we can greatly influence our overall happiness. It's a continuous process of self-improvement and adaptation, reinforcing the link between our daily habits and the level of happiness we experience in our lives.

But wait - what I’ve written so far should be obvious, I don’t think it’s anything that you don’t already know! And yet, I suspect there is a possibility that there is room for more happiness and more success in your life.

So why do we engage in “unhealthy” habits and what can we do about it? Engaging in these “unhealthy” habits, despite their detrimental effect on our happiness, can be attributed to various factors.

  1. Immediate Gratification: Negative habits often provide instant but short-lived pleasure or relief, making them highly attractive. For example, procrastination may provide immediate relief from a daunting task, or junk food might give a quick burst of pleasure. However, these momentary feelings of satisfaction often lead to long-term discomfort or unhappiness.

  2. Habit Loop: Habits are formed through a loop of cue, routine, and reward. Negative habits are no exception. Over time, our brain establishes a strong connection between the cue and the reward, causing us to unconsciously engage in the routine (negative habit). For instance, stress might be the cue that leads to the routine of overeating, with temporary relief acting as the reward.

  3. Resistance to Change: Change can be difficult and requires effort and determination. Even when we understand that a habit is harmful, the comfort of familiarity can make it hard to break the cycle.

  4. Lack of Awareness or Denial: Sometimes, we engage in negative habits because we are either unaware of their harmful effects, underestimate their impact, or are in denial about the consequences.

  5. Coping Mechanism: Negative habits can also serve as coping strategies for underlying issues such as stress, anxiety, or depression. They provide a temporary escape from uncomfortable emotions or situations, which can make them difficult to let go of without addressing the root cause.

Understanding these reasons can help in addressing and overcoming “unhealthy” habits. It's important to remember that breaking negative habits is a process that requires patience, self-compassion, and often professional help, but it's an essential step towards enhancing our overall happiness and well-being.

As we've seen, the path to greater happiness and success can be greatly influenced by our daily habits. Both the constructive habits we nurture and the negative ones we work to overcome play a pivotal role in our quest for contentment.

I encourage you to take some time today to reflect on your own habits.

  1. Which ones lift you up?

  2. Which ones drag you down?

Remember, no one is perfect, and change takes time. Be patient and kind to yourself as you embark on this journey of transformation.

For further reading, resources, or to engage in one-on-one coaching to help you foster positive habits and live a happier life, please visit my website – see in the comments below. Alternatively, feel free to reach out via email, comment, or private message. I'd love to hear about your experiences, challenges, and victories on this path to healthier, happier habits.

Throughout this article, we've examined how our daily habits can impact our happiness. The journey to creating positive habits and transforming our lives can be challenging. It's important to remember that you don't have to embark on this path alone.

As a coach, I am committed to guiding you through the process of identifying harmful habits, cultivating positive ones, and ultimately enhancing your overall well-being and happiness. Together, we can tailor a personalised approach to help you navigate your unique challenges and reach your goals.

Don't hesitate to get in touch with me for a one-to-one coaching session. Whether you need assistance with goal setting, accountability, or simply wish to discuss strategies for a healthier and happier lifestyle, I am here to help.

Lastly, if you found this article helpful, please consider sharing it with your network. You never know who might need to read it today.


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