About Tom Goldstein

Tom Goldstein in hiking clothes against an old wooden barn

Professional Qualifications

MSc (Masters of Science) Psychology
PG Diploma in Behaviour change and wellbeing
Certified Life Coach (CTI - CPCC, ICF - PCC)
Enneagram and DISC Personality Assessments
Certificate in NLP & Positive Psychology
Trauma Informed Practitioner / Mental Health First Aid
Level 3: Eco-Psychology & Forest School Practitioner
Certified mindfulness teacher (CMT-P)
Sound Therapy Practitioner (BAST)
Somatic Informed Coaching / Certified Qi Gong Teacher
Team Coaching Certificate
Parts Work Coaching (eg. IFS) / Systemic Coaching
ADHD & Neuro Diversity Aware
International Mountain Leader
1700+ hours coaching experience / 1000+ hours training

"Let me support you to make real shifts in how you experience your life. I can help you explore, discover and take action; to live each and every day with meaning; to define, plan, and achieve your goals in life and in your career." - Tom Goldstein

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I am continually developing my coaching tools, skills and experience.

Why Tom?

I do my own deep work. I attend retreats. I work with my own coaches, teachers & mentors.

I walk my talk. I live my life by my values, and endeavour to follow my own path.

I am a certified personal and professional coach (ICF PCC). I have a master’s degree in psychology, and a PGDip in systemic behaviour change and well-being. I work with clients who are motivated to find new ways of showing up, find balance, resilience, and who want to maximise their potential for success. I ask my clients to see every moment as a chance to develop and explore new perspectives.

My coaching includes leadership development, career growth, mental wellbeing, personal development, teams, sports performance, and life in general. I have coached CEOs, executives, founders, senior leaders, high potential individuals, athletes, as well as people and teams at all levels within and outside of organisations.

Before training as a coach, I spent 15 years working in telecoms. I worked for small start-ups and large multi-nationals. Started off as a hardware engineer, and then moving to software and then customer support and technical pre-sales - in the UK, Europe, Americas, India, and APAC, and finally leadership. I was involved in building and leading both regional and global teams for more than 5 years.

In July 2015 I left my career in telecoms with the goal of exploring myself more deeply. I believe that the journey is always ongoing, and I am constantly learning and growing. In 2016 I was trained and certified by the Coach Training Institute (CTI), one of the most established and well-respected coach training schools in the world. I now work as a coach, nature connection guide, hiking guide and sound, meditation, and movement therapist.

I am passionate about learning in many different form, which has served me well. I now have more than 1200 hours coaching experience and 1000 hours training, including: coaching, NLP, systemic coaching, communication skills, leadership development, trauma, wellbeing, positive psychology, team coaching, Internal Family Systems, sound therapy, mindfulness and nature connection. I have a number of assessment tools that I also use when appropriate. This broad combination allows me to blend different techniques and tools to best suit the needs of my clients.

I have had my fair share of success throughout my life, but I have also faced my own struggles and difficult times. Like many others, I have experienced anxiety, insecurity and a lack of self belief. My friends, family and community are very important to me, they help me to stay grounded and to enjoy life. My own teachers, coaches and therapist have supported me on my journey, and I am continually grateful to them for this. Time in nature, my sports and my meditation have brought me peace and happiness in my career and my broader life.

It is important for me that I have walked the path, and continue to walk the path before I coach others to do the same. For me this means a lot of personal development, therapy, coaching and training over the past 10 years. I continually draw on this experience in my life and my coaching. As well as ongoing professional development, I regularly take part in silent meditation retreats, often based in pristine nature. I have a decade of experience with my own meditation practice and deep nature connection.

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You are not your thoughts.
You are not your feelings.

They’re loud sometimes.
But they are not you.

One of the most powerful things you can learn is how to pause.
To notice what’s happening inside — without getting swept away.

Because the moment you stop reacting from your thoughts and feelings…
You can start responding to them.
With presence.
With choice.
With power.

That’s how we live more freely.
That’s how we lead with authenticity.
That’s how we come back to ourselves.

📌 What helps you get perspective when your inner world feels noisy?

What a difference a weekend makes.

A few days ago, I shared that I’d woken up with a strong feeling of failure. It wasn’t mild — it hit hard.

I felt like I was losing the chance to create something I deeply long for:

- a true home. A place of rootedness.

That feeling didn’t come out of nowhere. And it wasn’t just something to brush off or “bounce back” from.

It carried something important.

- A strong wake-up call.

- A message from deep within me.

Yes, the feeling was extreme. But within it, there was a percentage of truth I needed to listen to.

It reminded me that I haven’t always been fully aligned with what matters most to me. It showed me how easy it is to drift from our deeper values, without even realising it.

And it asked me to stop. To feel. To get honest.

This weekend, I gave myself the space to do that.

- To stay present with the discomfort rather than avoid it.

- To move, reflect, reach out, and breathe through it.

- To talk openly and honestly with people about it.

And through that, something has shifted.

I’m not pretending the hard feelings didn’t happen.

- I’m not pushing them aside.

- They’re part of me — and they’ve taught me something valuable.

I’ve come out the other side with a clearer sense of what’s real and meaningful for me.

And a clearer sense of what isn’t — the old beliefs and distorted thoughts that can easily cloud things when fear gets loud.

Life is a process, a winding uncertain path. Not a clean story.

- There is no perfect arrival point...

But every bump in the road, every dip, every emotional storm… can offer something.

- This time, it offered clarity. A bit more growth. A deeper alignment with what matters.

And I’m grateful — for the tools I’ve practised, the friends who continue to walk beside me, and the reminder that these moments aren’t detours. They are the path.

If you’ve been through something similar — what has a tough emotional moment taught you about yourself?

I’d love to hear what you’ve learnt through the bumps along the way.

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I’m Tom Goldstein. Through coaching, online training, and immersive nature based experiences, I help my clients trust themselves more.

The Subtle Power of Feeling Safe 💛

I’ve been noticing something lately - something shaping my life more than I realised.

👉 Feeling safe.

Not just physical safety, but that deep, quiet sense of ease. Sometimes it's really subtle.

When I don’t feel safe:
🔸 My body tenses.
🔸 My mind races.
🔸 I feel slightly guarded, even if I don’t know why.

But when I do feel safe:
✨ My heart softens.
✨ My breath deepens.
✨ I feel more joy, more love, more presence.

- It happens with my partner (most of the time).
- With certain friends.
- In some work scenarios (but not all).
- In places where I can just be myself.

I didn’t always realise how much this mattered.

I adapted, like many of us do, to situations that weren’t quite right.

I told myself I was fine.

But now, I can feel the difference.

And I choose safety whenever possible.

And if I can't then I am at least aware of how my brain and body are reacting to the situation. 💛

Because when I feel safe, I can be me.

And that changes everything.

That quiet shift between being on guard and fully at ease.

👀 Have you noticed this in your own life or at work?
👀 Who helps you to feel really safe, and who doesn't?

DM me, Let’s talk. ⬇️

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Hi, I’m Tom Goldstein – Coach, Guide, and Facilitator of Growth.

I can help you overcome self-doubt, overthinking, and hesitation at work and in your personal life, so you can show up with confidence, clarity, and presence - without changing who they are.

Through coaching, online training, and immersive nature based experiences, I help my clients trust themselves more, break free from self-sabotage, and step into their self-leadership - whether that means speaking up in meetings, leading with presence, or finally getting recognised for the value they bring.

If you’re ready to move past self-doubt and start showing up fully in your career and life, follow me or get in touch. Life is an adventure - let’s make sure you’re fully in it. 🚀🌿

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🚀 8 Weeks to More Presence, Confidence & Mental Clarity

💡 You know your stuff.

You’re smart, capable, and skilled.

But…

Your brain never switches off—work thoughts follow you everywhere.

You overthink what to say in meetings and replay conversations long after they’re over.

You feel pressure to always be “on”, but it’s exhausting.

You’re constantly in your head, and no matter how much you achieve, it never quite feels enough.

Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

In fast-moving, high-pressure tech roles, it’s easy to feel like you’re running on autopilot, stuck in self-doubt, or never fully here.

What if you could change that?

🌿 A Space to Step Back, Reset & Reconnect

I’m inviting you to an 8-week online mindfulness experience, designed for people like you - those who want to:

✅ Break free from overthinking & mental noise.
✅ Feel more confident & present in meetings, calls & leadership moments.
✅ Manage stress, anxiety & self-doubt in a way that actually works.
✅ Stop feeling so mentally drained & start feeling more clear & focused.

This isn’t about meditation apps or vague "just breathe" advice.

It’s about practical tools for real-life situations - meetings, presentations, decision-making, and everyday work stress.

🧘 8 Weeks of Mindfulness, Confidence & Career Growth

📌 Week 1 – Discovering the Present Moment
Shift out of autopilot and show up with clarity & confidence in real time.
📌 Week 2 – The Art of Allowing
Handling discomfort, uncertainty & pressure without overreacting or shutting down.
📌 Week 3 – Embodiment
Out of your head and into your body - so you feel grounded, not overwhelmed, in high-stakes situations.
📌 Week 4 – Awareness of Feelings
Manage stress, imposter syndrome & self-doubt without getting stuck in overthinking.
📌 Week 5 – Self-Compassion
Overcome self-criticism & perfectionism - stop getting in your own way.
📌 Week 6 – Nourishing Happiness
How to feel more at ease, even in a fast-paced, high-pressure environment.
📌 Week 7 – Awareness of Mind
Understand your thought patterns so you can work with them, not against them.
📌 Week 8 – Mindful Life & Work
Integrate mindfulness into your work, leadership, and career

Unmasking Anxiety & The Journey of Self-Understanding

I woke up the other morning with a huge wave of anxiety.

😞 It sat in my stomach like a heavy knot, demanding my attention before I’d even opened my eyes properly.

As I lay there, breathing into the discomfort, I realised something: there was no specific reason for me to feel anxious. Nothing obvious to pin it on. And that, I think, is often the nature of anxiety.

What also landed in that moment was the realisation that this was nothing new.

That for most of my life, I have been masking feelings like this. 🎭

Masking, for those who might not have come across the term, is when we consciously or unconsciously suppress or hide emotions, behaviours, or traits to fit in, function, or avoid judgment.

It can look like pushing through exhaustion, 😵‍💫 pretending to be fine when we’re overwhelmed, 🫠 or overcompensating in social situations to avoid seeming ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’.

I think a lot of us do this in different ways, but for some, it becomes a core survival strategy.

Over the past few months, I’ve been exploring the possibility that I have ADHD 🧠 - something that’s never been diagnosed but feels more and more relevant.

Talking to friends, reading books 📚, and speaking with experts, I see myself in so many of the symptoms.

At the same time, it’s tricky to pinpoint exactly where my experiences shift from being within the ‘normal’ range to something that’s actually different from most people. ADHD traits (sometimes collectively called VAST symptoms - Variable Attention Stimulus Trait) exist on a spectrum, and finding where I sit on that spectrum is something I’m still working out.

What I do know is that mindfulness has been one of the most effective ways for me to notice what’s happening inside me, rather than just reacting to it or trying to push through.

🧘‍♂️ Learning to sit with discomfort instead of automatically masking it has been a game-changer.

This is one of the reasons I’m offering an 8-week mindfulness experience, designed for people who want to develop a deeper awareness of their inner world and find ways to work with themselves rather than against themselves.

Why Mindfulness is Essential for Personal and Professional Growth 🧘‍♂️💡

In today’s fast-paced world, I know that I often feel challenged by other people's actions and reactions.

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the amount going on, by my goals, my thoughts, emotions, and all manner of external demands.

Often, we react before we fully process what’s happening around us. We often react unconsciously to protect ourself, our time, our space, or our point of view.

This is where mindfulness comes in – a simple, yet profound practice that allows us to create the space needed to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.

Here’s why mindfulness matters:

✨ Distance from Thoughts & Emotions:

Mindfulness allows us to step back and observe our thoughts and feelings without immediately identifying with them. This separation creates clarity, helping us make decisions from a place of awareness rather than being swept away by our emotions.

✨ Managing Reactiveness:

In high-pressure situations, it’s easy to snap or react in ways we might regret later. Mindfulness helps us pause, take a breath, and respond intentionally – leading to more thoughtful, measured actions that align with our values.

✨ Being Present in Complex Situations:

Whether it’s a challenging conversation, a tight deadline, or a stressful meeting, mindfulness helps us stay present. It allows us to listen fully, engage without distraction, and approach each situation with a calm, focused mindset.

✨ Showing Up More Fully:

When we are mindful, we bring our whole selves to the moment. This means we show up as our most authentic, engaged, and intentional selves – both at work and in our personal lives. The more present we are, the more we can connect, collaborate, and contribute.

Mindfulness is not about avoiding stress or hard emotions – it’s about developing the ability to handle them with a clear, open mind.

It’s a tool that empowers us to navigate life with greater ease and resilience.

I've been practicing mindfulness and meditation in depth since 2011. I'm still not a saint, but the tools an practices I've learnt have definitely helped me along the way - and continue to do so.

Some Friday reflections... Finding Myself, One Adventure at a Time

If I’m honest, I’ve been feeling a bit lost recently.

Not in a dramatic, rock-bottom kind of way, but in that quieter sense where something just doesn’t quite sit right.

My work is going well, I live in an amazing place, I have good friends and relationship.

But I've had questions circling my mind:

🤔 What is truly important to me?
🤔 Who do I want to coach?
🤔 How do I actually want to live my life?

I wanted real answers. I wanted to feel that deep down, grounded sense of knowing.

But I also had this fear that I might never find it - that I’d always be circling, always searching. What is "it" anyway?

☺️ I decided to give myself space.

I didn’t really know if it would help, but I started carving out time for nature and adventure - places where I felt like I could breathe more freely.

At first, nothing much happened. I’d go for walks or take trips, and I’d come back still feeling unsure and a little tangled up inside.

But over time, something started to shift.

👀 It wasn’t a single, life-changing epiphany.

👀 It was more like tiny drops of clarity, gathering slowly.

👀 Each time I stepped into nature or let myself get lost in an adventure, I’d find another little piece of myself.

👀 It was subtle, and often I didn’t even notice it until later. And then suddenly things are falling into place!

I’ve learned that my answers don’t come when I’m pushing for them.

They come when I’m not looking - when I’m out in the world, away from my desk, away from the need to figure it all out.

I’ve had to learn to trust that process, even when it feels uncomfortable or when I’m not sure if it’s “working.”

❤️‍🔥 I’m sharing this because I know how it feels to be in that uncertain place.

❤️‍🔥 It can be unsettling.

❤️‍🔥 But maybe, just maybe, the answers you’re looking for aren’t on the other side of more thinking or planning.

❤️‍🔥 Maybe they’re out there, waiting for you to create the space where they can rise to the surface - slowly, imperfectly, but in their own time.

Why a Clear Purpose Is Both Important and Not Important

We often hear that having a clear purpose or a strong “why” is essential for finding focus in life, work, or business.

And I find it’s true - clarity of purpose is like a compass that helps us steer through opportunities, challenges, and everyday decisions.

- It energises us, aligns our actions, and gives us a sense of meaning, helping us move towards a more purpose-driven approach.

👀 However, as we evolve personally or as an organisation, there comes a point where purpose shifts from being an external beacon to becoming a more internal, intrinsic experience.

🙌 What once required words, strategies, and mission statements becomes a felt sense - an intuitive knowing of the right direction and the best actions to take.

At this stage, clinging to a clearly defined, external purpose can start to feel limiting.

- It may be more useful to let go of the need for a specific label and instead trust this deeper, more fluid sense of purpose.

🕵️ This is where purpose transforms from something we hold onto tightly to something that guides us from within.

That said, for stakeholders - whether they are team members, clients, friends, or partners - having an explicit purpose remains helpful.

- It provides clarity, helps align expectations, and creates a shared understanding.

👀 When your purpose becomes more intrinsic, it’s important to bridge this internal knowing with the external world.

- This might mean communicating values, principles, or guiding intentions rather than fixed goals or rigid plans.

🧑‍🎨 The art lies in finding a balance between sharing enough to guide and inspire others while allowing room for the purpose to remain dynamic and open to new possibilities.

🧙 It’s about expressing the essence of your purpose without feeling the need to box it into a single, unchanging statement.

So, if you find your sense of purpose evolving into something less concrete but more deeply felt, embrace it.

- Share your journey, your principles, and your intentions with others, and invite them along for the ride.

I'm excited to offer this 8 week online Mindfulness and Presence experience, which I last offered in 2020.

😏 Do you find it hard to stay present and fully engaged?
😏 Do you feel overwhelmed by stress or a busy mind?
😏 Are you looking for tools to cultivate greater emotional resilience?
😏 Do you wish to deepen your connection with yourself and others?
😏 Are you ready to let go of autopilot living and embrace more clarity?
😏 Do you feel drawn to explore practices that support your inner peace?

We will come together as a small group, once per week to explore wonderful practices and philosophy to develop deeper mindfulness and presence.

For those who want to join, we will start with our first session on the 27th March.

This 8 week experience provides tools, support, and practices to:
👀 Cultivate greater self-awareness and clarity
👀 Develop tools to stay grounded and calm in stressful situations
👀 Strengthen your ability to focus and be fully present
👀 Enhance your emotional resilience and balance
👀 Build a deeper connection with your inner self and values
👀 Embrace life and work with more intention, curiosity, and ease

We will also explore together how mindfulness can enable you to:
👀 Discover practical ways to stay present and connected in your daily life
👀 Learn to quiet a busy mind and create moments of calm
👀 Develop emotional tools to navigate stress and overwhelm with ease.
👀 Deepen your connection to yourself, nature, and those around you
👀 Let go of autopilot living and awaken to the richness of each moment
👀 Explore transformative practices to nurture inner peace and growth

You will get to understand and experience mindfulness more deeply, spend time to reflect on how it relates to you, and have clear take aways and practices to experiment with in your own life and work.

See the link in the comments below!

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I’m Tom Goldstein - Coach, Mountain Leader, and Vision Quest Guide. I help individuals, teams, and leaders apply self-development in a practical, meaningful way, blending modern and ancient wisdom to unlock their authentic nature.

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