Coaching is a powerful way for you to develop your mental and emotional wellbeing. Whether you feel that you are in crisis, or simply not as happy as you want to be, I will help you to feel safe. I bring a balance of listening, support and practical help. I have been trained in trauma awareness and working with mental health. My approach draws on a wide range of methods, approaches and tools to help you find your balance and positive outlook again in life.
Coaching is not a replacement for counselling or psychotherapy, which may be better adapted to certain people and situations. In my experience, the two can sit alongside each other, and sometimes it is better to focus on on approach at a time. This is something we can discuss and review initially and on an ongoing basis.
Bringing peace to your inner world
IFS was originally developed for therapy, it has become popular in coaching too. It provides a powerful way to understand our actions and reactions in any situation, and to work with our self to find more effectives ways to act and react.
There are many different methods that integrate parts work, such as Internal Family Systems, Voice Dialogue, gestalt etc. The idea, which is now supported through a great deal of research, is that we are not ever a single personality, but a multiplicity of different parts. Our parts show up with differing intensities and in different combinations depending on what is happening to us - our context or triggers. Each part has a role to play, and is often trying to protect the deeper, more vulnerable parts of our personality.
As we learn to be more in our self-energy / authentic self, we are able to be curious about our parts. From there we are able to understand them, help them to feel safe, and to integrate them into our whole. This approach doesn't try to push parts away, or ignore them, or to let go of their distinctions. The aim is to be able to hold the complexity and polarity of all our parts. There is a lot of wisdom in our parts, the problem comes when they take over the whole show.
Working with your nervous system
Polyvagal theory gives us a way to understand how we react to perceived threat in our environment, or within our own thoughts. Knowing where we are using the ladder metaphor is key to catching our unhelpful inner and outer reactions. There are specific ways to manage our nervous system depending on where we are. For example when we are collapsed, it will help us to get into action. When we are agitated it will help to use grounding and other techniques to move us back to ventral vagal activation at the top of the ladder. This approach is also very helpful when working with difficult memories or situations, and is key for effective communication!
Positive psychology in coaching
Positive psychology is a call for psychological science and practice to be as concerned with strength as with weakness; as interested in building the best things in life as in repairing the worst; and as concerned with making the lives of normal people fulfilling as with healing pathology. It emphasizes meaning and deep satisfaction, not just on fleeting happiness. Theorists and researchers in the field have sought to identify the elements of a good life. They have also proposed and tested practices for improving life satisfaction and well-being. Research has shown significant positive associations between each of the PERMA components and physical health, vitality, job satisfaction, life satisfaction, and commitment within organizations. PERMA is also a better predictor of psychological distress than previous reports of distress. This means that proactively working on the components of PERMA not only increases aspects of wellbeing, but also decreases psychological distress.
Positive psychology also focuses on values, vision and what is important for you to live a fulfilled life and perform well where it is important for you to perform well. I believe that understanding your emotional needs and where they may or may not be fulfilled is a key aspect of this approach. Most important is for you to become your own expert and your own inner leader. This means a combination of inner and outer awareness, the ability to self heal and to choose your own behaviour and inner responses to external situations as well as inner thoughts and emotions.
Self care is important all the time, and yet it's when we need it most that we often lose the motivation, strength, instincts or habits to look after ourselves to optimally support ourselves. Coaching can support you to identify where you could be doing a better job of self care, what really works for you, to integrate more kindness into your worldview, and to start implementing a better self care routine into your life. This work forms the basis for everything else that you want to achieve, and gives you the chance to turn languishing and downwards spirals into a more sustainable and content way of life.
Mindfulness, acceptance, awareness & somatic experience
Another important principle that I work by is that self-awareness and the ability to accept whatever we are going through are key skills to develop. Acceptance does not mean resignation, there is a very important distinction between the two. Acceptance is about allowing what is going on to be true. Once we are able to do that, and stop simply wishing it were different, we can take steps to make change. If we stay in resistance and denial, then we are not able to fully see what we need to do next. The approach allows you to develop your own capacity quickly, and give you methods to take away and use in your own time. You will learn how to notice and shift the negative patterns that form around uncomfortable thoughts, feelings, events or troubling memories. I also use aspects of tapping (EFT) to help my clients process and let go of traumatic experiences that are stubbornly getting in the way of their current happiness and fulfilment in life and work.
I have been trained in Mindfulness for Life and also in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. This allows me to help my clients build formal and informal mindfulness practices into their daily lives and to make a positive difference to their mental and emotional wellbeing.
As well as integrating mindfulness into my coaching, I also provide introductions and deeper ongoing support for mindfulness and meditation. This draws on best practices from Western Mindfulness and Eastern meditation practices. My own 10 year meditation journey and training informs my teaching and guidance.
I offer eight week courses as well as informal introductions and ongoing mindfulness training.
Sound healing and relaxation
Sound healing journeys are unique and are a very easy way to go deep into a state of relaxation, effortlessly. Each journey will take you to a different destination in mind, body or beyond. The more you are open in mind and body to the experience, the deeper you will be able to let go and allow the sounds to heal on a deeper level. This heart-based experience offers the participant a journey into the self. Sound Journeys are an effortless way to access deep states of relaxation. We all need more time to rest and relax in this fast-paced world we live in.
As a qualified sound therapist, each sounds experience is different. The combination of sounds, beats and tones help the mind to shift into an altered state of consciousness which has been shown to support rest, creativity and recuperation. You will need to be open in heart and mind to immerse yourself in the sounds that will bathe your body and mind. Various instruments are used including gongs, singing bowls and percussion. This way of working with sound can also help you to identify and integrate powerful insight into yourself and your life, or just give you the chance to deeply relax.